What should you do in minutes when you feel uncomfortable and edgy, but you are not quite certain why or what to do about it? In this report, you’ll learn a simple technique to get to the heart of what you are feeling and discover the message inside, so that you can take action to move ahead.
So, what’s your first inclination when you feel edgy? Do you want to take something to make the feeling go away? Do you distract yourself by focusing on something else? Do you examine it until you think of a story which makes sense?
All these are natural inclinations that can have value. Yet they may also perpetuate the recurrence of the exact same feeling again and again. We tend to think our stories and tell them over and over, so our life replays in a self-fulfilling loop.
So, what can you do in these awkward moments which would change things, direct you ahead, and start something new? Here’s a simple technique Named Accessing Your Emotional Centerline.
The moment you notice yourself feeling edgy and uncomfortable, instead of leaping into analyzing it and coming up with a story to explain it, see if you’re able to just sit with the sensation, be present with it, and get under it.
1. Insert a mental pause, let go of believing, and focus on the sensations along your Emotional Centerline: out of the neck, through the middle of your torso, into your lower abdomen. Putting your palms together in prayer position, as in the image above, will help you tune into this centerline. Focusing on sensations along your Emotional Centerline quiets the thinking mind and enables you to get your emotions without the baggage of intense storylines.
Inquire into the particular sensations in this region of your body. Is it tight, compressed, blocked, hard, hot, cold, numb, pierced, deflated, sinking, raw, empty, tingly, fluttering, climbing…?
2. To put it differently, see if it’s possible to accept the senses completely, unconditionally, and non-judgmentally. See if you can become familiar with the felt sensation without telling a story about it or being consumed by it.
3. See if you can label the specific feeling the feeling represents. You’ll feel a”yes” when you have the right label. Is it anger, sadness, fear, anxiety, Bat Droppings, joy, excitement,…?
4. As soon as you’ve identified the emotion you’re feeling, ask what it is prompting you to do. Focus into the feeling along your Emotional Centerline and address your query here. Notice what comes into your awareness. It could be a nonverbal knowing, particular words, a picture, a song, or an inspiration to do, say, or feel something… Just notice what arises, stay with it, and let it grow in clarity. See where it leads.
If nothing appears in this moment, see if you can keep an awareness of your Emotional Centerline as you go about your day. Notice what you become aware of as you do this.
As you practice these four steps again and again, you will find you can catch yourself before you get too deeply entrenched in embarrassing, edgy feelings or overly-identified along with your typical stories about what they mean. You’ll discover there is a deeper guidance under the surface of your emotions. Emotional intelligence cuts through mental chatter and speaks to the essence of everything you need to do in this moment. Occasionally this intellect is vastly different from the stories your mind is in the habit of telling.